I can’t think of anything better than this. I get to live in a beautiful town with family and good friends, and I get to spend most of my time helping people.
My family and I have lived in Tehachapi for over 25 years now. We live in a very quiet and beautiful place in Bear Valley Springs overlooking the valley. It’s a place of peaceful reflection, and a place to get perspective on life.
Over the years I have had the opportunity to help hundreds of people, both as a professional Christian counselor and therapist in a private practice, and also as the Pastor of “Family and Counseling Ministries” at a church in Tehachapi. Every person, and each situation that they were going through, has been unique. And it is been my privilege to walk through a lot of life with a lot of wonderful people. In the role of associate pastor, I also got to lead about a dozen Marriage weekend retreats and workshops, and teach parenting classes and workshops such as the “Navigating in the New World” six-week courses for both parents and teenagers.
In general the people who pick up the phone and called to make an appointment have come from one of four different “categories.”
- There are those who are dealing with predominately neurological issues that adversely impact their life on a day-to-day basis, such as ADHD, chronic pain, anxiety, and depression.
- And there are those for whom life has just become overwhelming because of trauma, or abuse, or rejection.
- Many are dealing with issues of abandonment, or shame and guilt.
- And then there is also a group that is having to deal with the powerful issue of forgiveness, and the consequences of “unforgiveness” in their lives.
These are issues that can impact us in every part of our being:
• in our physical bodies,
• in our brains and minds,
• in our souls and consciousness,
• and even in that part of us that is so hard to quantify called our “spirits”.
Our wounds from over the years and miles of life can impact us in any of those areas, or in every one of those places in our life.
And of course each of those areas, each of those issues, requires a different kind of intervention or treatment.
• Some can stabilize quickly with medications.
• Most of them require some kind of a new skill to be learned, or some new way of thinking about the big issues of life.
• And some of them require a true “release” or “giving up” of some things that we have held on to that are not really very good for us: things like anger, bitterness, or unforgiveness.
None of this is easy. But all of it is worthwhile.
And there is one who has come to bring light into darkness, to give us life of such quality that he calls it “eternal,” and to set prisoners free from whatever things keep them in bondage. It is good to be loved by someone like this.
Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., M.S. is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (M24381) who has been a skillful counselor to children, teens, and adults helping them to overcome ADHD, find relief for depression or anxiety, and solve other problems in life from his counseling office in Tehachapi since 1989. He served on the medical advisory board to the company that makes Attend and Extress from 1997 through 2011, and he is the Clinical Editor of the ADHD Information Library online resource. His weekly ADHD Newsletter goes out to 9,500 families. His website is http://DouglasCowan.me for more information on achieving greater health, personal growth, Christ-centered spirituality, stress management, parenting skills, working out the stresses of being a care-giver to elderly parents and also being a parent to teenagers, or finding greater meaning in retirement years, Dr. Cowan can be a valuable resource to you.
Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., MFT
27400 Oakflat Dr.
Tehachapi, CA 93561