Emotions, Behaviors, and Beliefs

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Rejection, Uncategorized

Emotions are funny things. Sometimes it seems as if emotions have a life of their own. They sometimes nourish us, and refresh our hearts. And sometimes they act as our masters and have enslaved us to them. Some emotions are generated purely by the brain. People suffering from anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and major depressive episodes are well aware of this. Anxiety can cause feelings of dread, inner turmoil, fear of the future, and great worry. Depression is a pervasive … Read More

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Is My Husband Depressed?

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Christian Counseling, Depression, PTSD, Teenagers

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We all seek for the meaning and purpose in our lives.  Why are we here?  What gives you a sense of legitimacy in your life? Many men have lived their lives deriving their sense of purpose – their feelings of legitimacy – from their jobs, or professions, or work related status.  But once retirement comes to them, instead of retirement being a time of relaxation and recreation, it becomes a dark time of life without meaning or purpose. The same … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiIs My Husband Depressed?

8 Barriers to Counseling Even When You Know You Need It : Reason #1

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, ADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame, Internet Problems, PTSD, Rejection, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Worry

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30% of all people could benefit from professional counseling today. There are 8 reasons main why they won’t come. The top 8 reasons are: The advice of friends and family members; The fear of being seen as either weak or crazy; The fear of the unknown – what actually takes place in a counseling session? The fear of having to actually express emotions; Concern that counseling won’t work, and will waste both money and time; Having been “burned” in the past … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi8 Barriers to Counseling Even When You Know You Need It : Reason #1

Depression Seminar : Updated 2015 Tehachapi Counseling Office

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame, PTSD, Rejection, Seminar Handouts, Teenagers, Worry

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Understanding-Depression-2015 in PDF Format to Click, Download, and Print Out Feel free to distribute to friends, or to use in any non-commercial form. Please keep credits to Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., MFT in Tehachapi, CA. Please do not use in any commercial form or commercial purposes without consent. Depression Seminar Notes are Posted Below for Quick Reading Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., MFT is a Marriage and Family therapist (M24381) and professional counselor with offices in Tehachapi, Bakersfield, and also meets with people … Read More

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25 Years Living and Counseling in Tehachapi

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, ADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame

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I can’t think of anything better than this. I get to live in a beautiful town with family and good friends, and I get to spend most of my time helping people. My family and I have lived in Tehachapi for over 25 years now. We live in a very quiet and beautiful place in Bear Valley Springs overlooking the valley. It’s a place of peaceful reflection, and a place to get perspective on life. Over the years I have … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi25 Years Living and Counseling in Tehachapi

Cutting and Self-Injury : Information Sheet

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Anxiety, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame, Rejection, Seminar Handouts, Teenagers

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Most common forms include: • Self-Cutting or “cutting” • Burning • Scratching • Hitting • Preventing Wounds from Healing Most commonly found among teenagers and young adults. 15% to 25% of adolescents and young adults have self-injured usually by cutting. 6% to 8% do so chronically. Most commonly females. Attempts to regulate emotions, often Anger, Guilt, Shame, Self-Loathing, Anxiety or Depression, Fear of Abandonment, Fear of Rejection. Some report “emotional numbness.” Deliberate self-harm “allows” them to express pain, release tension … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiCutting and Self-Injury : Information Sheet

Guilt and Shame

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Anxiety, Guilt Shame, Rejection, Worry

Guilt and Shame

Note to Pastors:  Whether as a pastor, or as a therapist, the most common condition that I have addressed in counseling has been helping people to overcome feelings of “guilt” or “shame” that they have carried for years.  These thoughts can be tormenting, and these feelings can influence both important life-decisions and everyday choices.  They distort the way that we see God, and ourselves.  It is painful to see people struggling through life without any sense of legitimacy or dignity.  … Read More

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I Have No One… Abandonment, Rejection, Orphan Heart

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Rejection

Do You Want to Get Well

The Impact of the Fear of Abandonment or Rejection Looking through the first five chapters of the Gospel of John we meet four people who are each so very different from one another.  And yet Jesus spends time with each one. First is Nicodemus, an influential leader of the Jewish religion.  He comes representing a group of religious leaders to interview Jesus.  “We know that you have come from God…”  This leads to Jesus talking to this great teacher about … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiI Have No One… Abandonment, Rejection, Orphan Heart