What To Say, and What Not to Say, When Someone Has Died

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Tehachapi, Uncategorized

Our words are powerful – they can bring “life” or “death, “ “blessings” or “curses.” It is so very important for us to learn to speak in the language of the Kingdom of God. For so many years we learned how to speak the language of the kingdom or darkness, or secularism, or fatalism. But in order for us to represent the Kingdom of Light, Life, and Freedom – and to speak to others on behalf of the Great King … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiWhat To Say, and What Not to Say, When Someone Has Died

The Real Truth Behind the Lies That We Believe

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAnxiety, Christian Counseling, Tehachapi, Uncategorized, Worry

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Improving Your Life Today, By Getting Rid of the Lies that We Believe From Our May 2016 Newsletter Having been a pastor and a professional therapist in Bear Valley Springs, Tehachapi, and Bakersfield for over 25 years, I have had the opportunity to meet and work with some really great people. One of my favorites is Sherry Rose, a pastoral counselor in Bakersfield, and a good friend of mine. She has written a new book, a 30 day devotional titled … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiThe Real Truth Behind the Lies That We Believe

10 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT DEPRESSION

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Depression, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Uncategorized

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HERE ARE 10 IMPORTANT THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT DEPRESSION 1. Depression is a pervasive and persistent sadness or low mood, causing feelings of low self-esteem, and loss of interest or pleasure in enjoyable activities. It is disabling to people. It impacts one’s sleeping, eating, work, school work, mood – everything. Anti-depressants alone help 33% of people, but 67% also require counseling with a professional therapist, counselor, or psychologist. About 20 million people suffer from some form of Depression … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi10 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT DEPRESSION

Improve Your Child’s Sleep, Focus, Concentration with This Digital Fast

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiADHD, Christian Counseling, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Uncategorized

Sometimes in order to get healthy we need to fast. Fasting can include foods, or a number of other things that we like. In the section to follow I am going to suggest that part of getting our children and teenagers with ADHD healthy is going to require that they fast from their Digital world for a few weeks. For our children, teenagers, and young adults the digital world is almost as important to them as food and sleep. In … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiImprove Your Child’s Sleep, Focus, Concentration with This Digital Fast

Emotions, Behaviors, and Beliefs

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Rejection, Uncategorized

Emotions are funny things. Sometimes it seems as if emotions have a life of their own. They sometimes nourish us, and refresh our hearts. And sometimes they act as our masters and have enslaved us to them. Some emotions are generated purely by the brain. People suffering from anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and major depressive episodes are well aware of this. Anxiety can cause feelings of dread, inner turmoil, fear of the future, and great worry. Depression is a pervasive … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiEmotions, Behaviors, and Beliefs

Is My Husband Depressed?

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Christian Counseling, Depression, PTSD, Teenagers

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We all seek for the meaning and purpose in our lives.  Why are we here?  What gives you a sense of legitimacy in your life? Many men have lived their lives deriving their sense of purpose – their feelings of legitimacy – from their jobs, or professions, or work related status.  But once retirement comes to them, instead of retirement being a time of relaxation and recreation, it becomes a dark time of life without meaning or purpose. The same … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiIs My Husband Depressed?

Forgiveness : 10 Great Tips Counseling Handout

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAnxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Forgiveness, Guilt Shame, Rejection, Seminar Handouts, Teenagers, Worry

forgiveness handout from Doug Cowan

Click Here to Get Your Free Copy of Our Forgiveness Counseling Handout – 15 pages – PDF Format.  This is the very same handout that we give to our private clients. FORGIVENESS : WHERE HEAVEN AND HELL MEET After nearly 30 years of counseling people of all ages, and in a variety of circumstances, I am convinced that this “F” word is the most powerful word in the English language – the word “Forgiveness.” Depending on the severity of the … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiForgiveness : 10 Great Tips Counseling Handout

10 Power Tools to Overcome Stress | Counseling Tehachapi

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Seminar Handouts, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Uncategorized, Worry

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Stress at Work : Causes Customers, co-workers, and real life Can we do more with less and not break? When Stress Comes : What is Happening to Me? What is the “fight, flight, or freeze” response? Physical, emotional, and cognitive responses to stress, immediate and long-term Release of Adrenalin, Cortisol, and elevated Cholesterol Power Tools to Manage and Over-come Stress Seeking Peace : “All men desire peace, but very few desire those things that make for peace.” Breathing and relaxation … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi10 Power Tools to Overcome Stress | Counseling Tehachapi

Can ADHD Medications be Used for Eating Disorders? Tehachapi Counselor Questions

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiADHD, Christian Counseling, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Worry

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I have a new client coming in to my office for counseling in Tehachapi tomorrow.  She called for an appointment because she said that she “was addicted to eating,” and this concerned her.  I had met her at an event in Stallion Springs before, and in that brief conversation she had mentioned that she knew I was a counselor in Tehachapi for those with ADHD, and that she had always wondered if ADHD was a part of her life. So … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiCan ADHD Medications be Used for Eating Disorders? Tehachapi Counselor Questions

8 Barriers to Counseling Even When You Know You Need It : Reason #1

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, ADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame, Internet Problems, PTSD, Rejection, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Worry

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30% of all people could benefit from professional counseling today. There are 8 reasons main why they won’t come. The top 8 reasons are: The advice of friends and family members; The fear of being seen as either weak or crazy; The fear of the unknown – what actually takes place in a counseling session? The fear of having to actually express emotions; Concern that counseling won’t work, and will waste both money and time; Having been “burned” in the past … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi8 Barriers to Counseling Even When You Know You Need It : Reason #1

PAIN OR PROZAC : Counselor Looks at Depression in Tehachapi

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Depression, Guilt Shame, PTSD, Rejection, Seminar Handouts

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So many people in Tehachapi are just walking around in a daze – feeling like there is a black cloud over them every waking hour.  They don’t like it, and they are looking for a way out, but the thoughts of rejection or sadness, anger or depression, are just too much for them.  They search for hope, but hopelessness torments them.  They feel lonely, but they are certainly not alone in their journey. Sometimes it seems that the only choices … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiPAIN OR PROZAC : Counselor Looks at Depression in Tehachapi

Depression Seminar : Updated 2015 Tehachapi Counseling Office

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame, PTSD, Rejection, Seminar Handouts, Teenagers, Worry

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Understanding-Depression-2015 in PDF Format to Click, Download, and Print Out Feel free to distribute to friends, or to use in any non-commercial form. Please keep credits to Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., MFT in Tehachapi, CA. Please do not use in any commercial form or commercial purposes without consent. Depression Seminar Notes are Posted Below for Quick Reading Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., MFT is a Marriage and Family therapist (M24381) and professional counselor with offices in Tehachapi, Bakersfield, and also meets with people … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiDepression Seminar : Updated 2015 Tehachapi Counseling Office

25 Years Living and Counseling in Tehachapi

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiAbandonment, ADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Fear, Guilt Shame

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I can’t think of anything better than this. I get to live in a beautiful town with family and good friends, and I get to spend most of my time helping people. My family and I have lived in Tehachapi for over 25 years now. We live in a very quiet and beautiful place in Bear Valley Springs overlooking the valley. It’s a place of peaceful reflection, and a place to get perspective on life. Over the years I have … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi25 Years Living and Counseling in Tehachapi

Does a Child’s Diet Impact Their ADHD Symptoms?

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiADHD, Christian Counseling, Teenagers

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There is a dynamic conversation within “ADHD circles” on whether what our children eat actually impacts their ADHD symptoms. Does consuming sugar make a kid “hyper”? or does consuming a soda make a youngster “impulsive”? Our Original article is here at the ADHD Information Library: http://newideas.net/does-your-childs-diet-impact-their-adhd-symptoms Of course, after helping children, teenagers, and adults with ADHD for over 25 years to be more effective at school, at home, and in relationships, I have no doubt that “Yes” – what somebody eats … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiDoes a Child’s Diet Impact Their ADHD Symptoms?

Concierge Medical Office in Bakersfield “The Practice”

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Uncategorized

The Practice Bakersfield

On Wednesdays I drive down from Tehachapi to provide Christian counseling services at “The Practice,” which is a concierge medical practice led by Jan Mensink, M.D. The whole concept of Concierge Medicine or Pre-Paid Medical Offices was just foreign to me, but the more I see it in operation, and the more I learn about it, but more I really like it. For a reasonable monthly fee (from $69/month to $139/month) you can become a “member” of this doctor’s practice, … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiConcierge Medical Office in Bakersfield “The Practice”

Space Ship Two : We Are So Very Sorry

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Uncategorized

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Our hearts and our prayers go out to the families of the two pilots aboard Space Ship 2 today. This is an unbelievably painful day for the families, as well as for all of the “Scaled” family. Many of my friends who work at Scaled Composites watched from the ground as the engine exploded. The cause of the crash has not yet been absolutely determined, and the NTSB will take its time to investigate. Mojave is not far from our … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiSpace Ship Two : We Are So Very Sorry

5 Great Reasons to Bring Your ADHD Child or Teen to Counseling

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Depression, Teenagers, Tehachapi, Uncategorized

I recently wrote about this on the ADHD Information Library at http://newideas.net and I thought I’d bring the article over here to my personal site for counseling in Tehachapi. I sat in my car waiting for my son to get out of his drama class in Tehachapi, and I read an article about ADHD kids and the treatments that they receive, or don’t receive. The point of the article was that even though most kids diagnosed with ADHD will receive … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling Tehachapi5 Great Reasons to Bring Your ADHD Child or Teen to Counseling

On Being in God’s Family Business

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Uncategorized

I’ve just written an brief article for our church in Tehachapi – The Living Room – from John chapter eight on the theme of Jesus being in “the family business” of giving Light, Life, and Freedom. And “in Christ” we are also God’s sons, and are in the “family business” too. We are to bring light, and life, and freedom to people and situations around us. We are to be “Life Givers” just as our Father is a life giver. … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiOn Being in God’s Family Business

John 8 Teaching on the Woman Caught in Adultery

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiChristian Counseling, Guilt Shame, Rejection, Uncategorized

The Living Room is the name of the ministry that we lead in Tehachapi, CA. We often meet in our home, and once a month we meet at Central Park in Tehachapi. Not long ago I taught on the passage of The Woman Caught in Adultery, who was brought to Jesus. Since we were meeting at the Park I didn’t want to teach for a long time, so I have recorded my complete thoughts in a 55 minute teaching that … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiJohn 8 Teaching on the Woman Caught in Adultery

Two Types of ADHD : Simplified

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiADHD, Anxiety, Christian Counseling, Seminar Handouts, Teenagers, Uncategorized

ADHD Infographic Two Types of ADHD

A simplified way to look at the different types of ADHD. From the ADHD Information Library at Newideas.net. If we reduce ADHD to its two simplest “types” we get a Hypo-Active type and a Hyper-Active type. I discuss six different types of ADHD at the ADHD Information Library website here, but to keep things as simple as possible let’s look at just two types. In general the HypoActive type is slower moving, often late, “hurry up and get ready,” passive, … Read More

Douglas Cowan Psy.D., Counseling TehachapiTwo Types of ADHD : Simplified